'Fake it 'til you make it' is a joke... and deep down, you know it.

There, I said it. 

We have generations of people who have learned that hiding, avoiding, or shoving down their emotions equals 'being strong.'

In my opinion, that particular outdated strategy has contributed more to the decline of people's emotional and mental well being more than any other. How about  a process that gets you where you want to go by working with who you are instead of attempting to force, bully and 'make' yourself behave differently?

For years I followed the personal development gurus. I did the affirmations and mantras. I read the books and listened to the audios. I did talk therapy. Albeit somewhat useful, I was still stuck in certain stories about myself that I decided were true, until I learned that stories are malleable.

I finally surrendered to the truth that you cannot think your way out of a negative emotion. That's when everything shifted.

I'm here to help you give yourself permission to experience whatever it is you feel so that you can transmute it into something powerful and useful for yourself. 

Neck deep in my own fear.

I began training Brazilian Jiu Jitsu in 2018.

I quickly learned as a middle-aged man that this martial art that appeared simple on the surface, was as deep as an ocean to master. Training BJJ has been its own personal development course. Most quit, and I think I know why.

There were times on my journey that I was brought to tears not from injuries or pain, but from frustration. My own expectations about how fast or easily I should have been learning this sport were the very beliefs that prevented my growth and enjoyment of it.

In the spring of 2023, I decided to put myself in an environment of rapid growth. I registered for a world BJJ tournament with the intent of overcoming and integrating the fears I had around competing. I wasn't so much concerned with winning as much as I was with evolving.

In between rigorous physical training and weight loss, I worked on the beliefs around my fears using the exact same tools I offer to you here. When I stepped on the mat and engaged my opponent, I was in a complete flow state. There was no resistance left.

I won my match by points advantage and submission.

You're entering a judgement & shame-free zone.

I'll help you identify and shift how you internally experience a problem, a barrier to a goal, or a negative experience. Once this happens, the emotional 'charge' around the situation becomes neutral and you arrive to a place of  clarity. 

The results are fast, effective and guaranteed - getting you back to yourself usually within less than 60 minutes.